What is ok to ask?

People often ask how Jacob is doing and I’m not really sure how to answer them. Should I simply say “he’s doing well, thanks for asking” or should I tell the truth, which might make them a bit uncomfortable? I believe most people really want to know how he is and truly hope I have some great, or at the very least, good news to report. Sometimes when I give some detail as to what we’ve been going through lately, the ‘asker’ gets very uncomfortable and there is an awkward pause because the response wasn’t what was expected. 

For those of you who are unsure of what is ok to ask, you should know that both Andrew and I welcome your questions and interest. There is very little about Jacob’s care and illness that we don’t discuss. If you are curious and want to share in his life, then thank you for your concern and please, ask how he’s doing. Most of the time you’ll get the current status, it’s too tiring to try to hide the details.

Without going into too much detail (only because that’s not the point of this entry), Jacob has been having a rough time lately. We’re not sure what’s going on but we’re in the process of investigating a few avenues and hope we can get to the bottom of it soon.

To our friends, thank you for taking the time and interest in our son and his progress. We truly appreciate your involvement.